NEVER. EVEN. MIND. I take that back. I think it was someone who had an avatar with a similiar photo to yours in it, it was late when I responded to this and I didn't even realise I was talking to you. I apologise!
Hmm...I'm loathe to believe anything I read on Twitter (remember when we thought there was that R8 insider spilling tea on the album delay before he started talking about how Rihanna was his secret wife and they'd been married for years?) but this does seem kinda legit I guess. I just looked up dream hampton and she seems to be pretty close to Jay so I can believe it.
I think you're right about other factors coming into play. Like you said, in the publics eye Remy has "atoned" for her misdeeds already whereas maybe people feel Casey has only bought his way out of the situation? But either way, I stand by the idea that race and gender play a big part in how people are perceiving it. I just can't imagine a white male singer - Justin Bieber for example - shooting someone in the chest without having that ruin his career.
Also, congrats on being so busy at work, I'm proud of you!